MizJ, please you don't have to apologize. I value your input! Hugs to you--I know how terrible that pain of seeing a lifetime of love and devotion being thrown away.

I'll come and read up on your thread, but if I understand correctly the xh that contacted you after 2 years is a different person from the H you are DBing? It's unbelievable what sense of entitlement our x's have. I have a friend whose xW went into full MLC (strangely at exactly the same time as my xH), and she told my colleague "I am not worried. I know that if I ever want you back in the future, I will get you back". It speaks volumes both about their delusional view and the source of resentment (we are seen as stationary, unchangeable, and therefore a trap for their thirst for life-changing experiences)