Snodderly, I am so grateful for your post! You have no idea how much it means to me! True--if we are meant to ever be together again, God will find the way.
Yes, it's his combined anger and guilt that I see as the main psychological stumbling blocks to communication. Maybe I am wrong, and I wouldn't be so happy if he were all chatty and friendly, but I wish we could have preserved our friendship at least. The lack of that ease--on his side--tells me that he is not done baking. When we feel strong and truly content with our choices, we are also generous and forgiving, I think. If he were truly content with his current choices, he would be able to pass over all the resentment and forgive what he called the wounds inflicted over the years and acknowledge the love we have given to each other for most of our grown up life. But maybe I am wrong...
