Hey Aquarian! Yes, I told her, in an email, that saying no is okay, just do it politely. She says that the look of disgust I saw was all in my head. We had an even bigger fight last night, with her saying that I refuse to take any blame for anything that's going wrong, and that she tries and tries and then does one little thing I take issue with, and I forget about all the good things. It was kind of an ugly fight, with her ridiculing me, me saying she was acting immature, her telling me to grow up, etc. We finally ended up in an uneasy truce, continuing to paint the living room, and watching Average Joe Hawaii. I went to bed first, she came up about 45 minutes later, said something else nasty about the way I perceive things, and I didn't respond, because I wanted to get some sleep.
I just keep on remembering that what first attracted her to me was my confidence, and that I have lost a lot of that over the years. I am trying to be firm, gentle, patient, loving, and self-confident. Unfortunately, she characterizes that as a holier-than-thou attitude I'm copping, but, all I can do is all I can do.
To answer some of your questions, yes, she probably would take care of me when I was sick, I just don't seem to get sick very often (knock on wood). And no, she hasn't always been like this. She was very amorous and understanding when I first met her. But in retrospect, she did seem to have kind of a hang up about how I approached her when I wanted to make love. I didn't think it was that big of a deal.
Oh, and Sarah, I did give her that letter...she went ballistic, as you probably read.
