One giant leap forward! - Part 3

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As I said things can change hour to hour.


W text me this morning:

Hi. I think it's best you have the kids for a day's on your time off.
S3 has been a bloody nightmare (she mentioned this last night). Had me in tears the last two days. Actually at my wits end with him. I'm exhausted!!!


I'm fine with having the kids for a few days.
Is she taking advantage of the situation? I know that isn't my issue but it does come to mind.
She stated quite strongly that the kids routines shouldn't be changed during the week. Now it suits her it is OK to change that.

I want to say:
You said that the kids weekly routine shouldn't be changed and even though I wanted to have them at some point during the week I respected your wishes. Now you have done a U turn on that and you want to change it because it suits you.
I would love to have the kids for a bit although I would like more consistency in what you actually want.
I will let you know what days work will work for me.

I'm gonna stop there because I think it sounds a bit like rambling.

The issue of U turning on her wishes is annoying.

Do I deal with it in the reply?
Should I just phone to see how she is?
Should I validate on how she feeling?

This s where I find it hard to do the next thing myself without advice.

If I just say yes

Instead of posting on here and then waiting for the answer I thought about it for a good while and came up with this:

Of course I will.
I'm sorry he is being such hard work.
What about the routine?
You were very against changing it last week.

- Yes I will have the kids.
- Validation.
- Mention her U turn and get feedback about it.