What a day! I had an impromptu meeting with both attorneys, xh via phone, for several hours hashing out a temporary support order (the terms will be incorporated into the final settlement which isn't quite done). I got what I asked for which was above guideline support with no termination date even when the boys turn 18 (the support will continue through college). I suspect it will be modified at some point, but not for quite awhile. Once it was signed xh went right to the bank and deposited what he's owed me - finally! I was gracious and thanked him. I also told him that I appreciate that he works hard to support us and that's true even though he's made my life a living hell. He replied "welcome."
While I'm gone the attorneys will continue to finalize the MSA. As of now I have full legal and physically custody of the boys with visitation to be determined by the therapist. I'm also getting my house with a small payout to xh when I sell. The duration for the refi is being negotiated. So really, we're pretty much done unless xh gets cold feet and and wants to modify the terms.
Honestly, I don't know how I came out of this so well. It certainly wasn't worth what the boys and I have been through. I would still rather have my family intact, so really what does any of it matter. Yes, the boys and I will have our needs met, and I'm extremely grateful, but really, it just doesn't feel that good.
