I stirred the hornets nest and am worried now...

[Fighting4mylife]

Hi - Would love some advice. My husband is in an MLC and has told me he is thinking about leaving me in 2 years. I know he has been learning french and found out a while ago he had been on a website trying to meet new people to speak French with but didn't let him know as he is very secretive. He travels every week for work and mentioned he has two Paris trips he requested. We were having a great morning before this. We went jogging, were talking and enjoying each other's company. However, when he mentioned this trip, I was nice and said he would be able to practice his French. He said he liked to read books in french. I asked if he got a chance to ever speak with people over there and he put his hand over his eyes and looked uncomfortable and told me he didn't want to talk about it. He then went upstairs to get ready for a two day trip for work.

Normally, I would ignore ala 180 but I think I was just fed up at that point so I checked the website and the password I tried worked. It turns out he has been skyping tons of people men and women in France. No big deal? Why didn't he mention it? So when he came down from his shower, I said why don't we try to skype some this trip and that I had set up an account. He freaked out on me! Told me he didn't want to talk to me at all when he was away just wanted to be away from me. Then he grudgingly friended me. But freaked out that I was sitting beside him when he had to open his skype. Tried to tell me that he wanted me to go in the other room to “test it”. Then he went upstairs to pack. I checked his Skype account and sure enough there were tons of people as contacts even though he had just told me I was the only one. I kept quite that I had seen it. Even acted surprise there was a picture on it. I mean he was really freaking out! Then he came downstairs and got back on his computer even though at this point he was late to work. I saw him deleting stuff and sure enough when he left, I checked again and all contacts were deleted. I calmly phoned him and told him I didn’t mean to upset him and I realized he needed his space. He tried to say he just wanted to sleep because the travelling is hard on him. I said no problem. When he got to work, he must have changed his password because I can’t get on it now. So I deleted him from Skype (which I am hoping will throw him off).

I am hoping this is a 180 because I am being calm but in my own way am trying to call him on his bullshit without confrontation. It is this right approach? Am thinking about not answering his texts tomorrow. Is this too much?