Quote: My wife I guess shows me love by keeping house, working finances, cooking, raising kids, BEING A GOOD MOTHER. THis is where the problems start, she is focused on being a mother, rather then FIRST focusing on being my LOVER. We should ALWAYS strive to make our spouses FIRST in our lives, even ahead of kids.
Cemar, I totally agree with you on this point. It is very easy to let the demands of being a parent take over to the extend that the spouse becomes second best. I came across an article illustrating this point in one of the parenting websites. Its here . Maybe you could send your wife that article. Do you think she would get offended or defensive? Its really not difficult to take care of your H while looking after the kids even though its difficult and sometimes unrealistic to find time alone. I thoroughly enjoy giving my H a massage while reading to my toddler and so do the two of them!
