I too am impressed with how strong you sound SA. W will surely notice this, and it will make you more attractive to her.
As for how to make the separation work, I think you're doing great there too. You want to lay out rules, expectations, timelines, kids, money etc. Get together with her and negotiate all this early on. Do this right and then you can better go dim and allow her to see what reality without you and her family together will be like.
Let go of her completely and let the Reality Stick do it's job.
Quote:
I would be afraid to combat lonliness she calls back her 1-night stand. I understand he's homeless and sleeping on somebody's couch. This is an expensive area and I doubt surf instructors earn that much.
I know, but you can't control this so don't worry about it. (or snoop!) It will only hurt you and your chances for R. You can always request testing for std's should she want back in the M.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
