Thanks RH, for another take on the transparency issue. What you've done/are doing obviously works for you guys, and like everyone else here I love reading about it.

Comp, I don't blame you for expecting full transparency from your H. You KNOW he has an A and who it is with. You are correct that he can not work on your M while she's in the picture.

Stick to your guns or H will continue to keep both ends of the candle burning. Let him see that while you may want him, you surely don't NEED him. Their A will crash, and then YOU get to decide how to proceed...

Oh and if you never felt confused about all this I'd be worried about you! Bust On!

M: A really long time.
Crisis: 5 years.
She's still worth it.

Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl