Thumper, thanks for the advice. I've been thinking about this some more. My W has not thought about the kids and custody. I think I'm going to tell her that they should sleep here 5 nights a week so as not to disrupt their schedule. She can have them Fri. evening through Sunday night. I'll have them Sun night through Friday morning. On Wed, when I do my GAL activity of sailing every week, she can have dinner with them, do homework, and put them to bed in our house.
For the finances I was going to tell her that I need $$ from her each month to keep the house going and pay for everything else associated with the house.
For the finances, she spent lots of $$ but in June she kinda of stopped her spending spree. (in May she spent $3000 on clothes for herself!) So far we have not had any financial issues between us. The joint bank account is actually only about 20% of our cash assets. I have the other 80% in mutual funds that my W does not have ready access to because she was never interested in such things. I feel more or less OK about the money, and I think it is better not to make an issue of it that will just move us further apart.
I'm not sure what rock bottom would look like. For her, it might be:
1. living alone 2. not being accepted to the university 3. realize that she's losing me? her family?
I would be afraid to combat lonliness she calls back her 1-night stand. I understand he's homeless and sleeping on somebody's couch. This is an expensive area and I doubt surf instructors earn that much.
