Husband Threatened to Leave, Don't know what to do

[TrentC]

Its not my interpretation MrBond. He has told me numerous times that he is "miserable" He said it again today. Yelled at my 7 year old then came and told me his "miserable" mood is being taken out on the kids and he hates it. I asked him if its work and he said no. I asked him if he wants to tell me anything and he said no. I asked if he wants to talk to somebody and he said "no!"

Well, then you have your answer. He knows it's his problem and he doesn't want any help figuring it out, so that makes him responsible for fixing it, not you.

If you need to distract yourself with something then focus on your boys, because they need a parent they can rely on.

I gave him and hug and he snuggled in with his head but no touch from his hands.

MrBond has it exactly right; you cannot dissect every single thing he says and does to this degree, you will drive yourself crazy!

He has been playing cheeky with me all day. Had his hand out earlier and i grabbed it and he pulled away and said "don't touch me" and I said "fine" and walked away and he goes "im just kidding, relax" and put his hand out for me again.

You can't let his cycling get you all worked up. Anything he says is cause for you to doubt yourself, doubt him, or both. If you can't handle his mood swings right now then you need to create some space for yourself.

I know he wants more affection from you and you want to provide it for him, but maybe now is not the time to be chasing him because there is obviously more to his problems than meets the eye. If he was a little bit older I'd wonder if he wasn't having a midlife crisis.