Quote: Now about the sex and me taking away lovebank points. I can spend an hour on foreplay and then she flips on her back and says, "OK, Let's take care of you". That just really ruins the moment for me. I still go ahead and swallow my pride and have sex with her, but it makes me feel REAL UNIMPORTANT to her. She is withdrawing Lovebank points even while having sex!
oh c'mon cemar at least she rolls over and let's you have your turn...most of us women get left wanting more just as our h's finish their business.
Since you say it's not so much about sex, why not try for more hugs and cuddles with no intent of it going further than that?
as far as putting your spouse above the kids? I think that's a hard concept for most women to swallow (no sexual inuendo intented). I of course understand it...heck the kids wont be around forever and if we dedicate all of ourselves to them and/or work well then what the heck will we do when they grow up and move on to their own lives??? become the pain in the a$$ mil that doesn't know how to let go of the child that is now an adult with it's own children?
ok I'll stop you're not the one who needs the lesson.
however cemar there may be a way that works for both...what if you for now accepted that the "family" is of first concern and put the "lover" on the back burner? you may find that w appreciates your "focus" on the family and therefore may be more receptive to being lovers?
