One giant leap forward! - Part 3

[T1000]

W emailed me about a few things and said she couldn't afford the nursery bill so she will need the £** she was going to give towards the MC appointment.

My first reaction (in my head) was anger that she was maybe backing out of it.
I thought of all sorts of replies ranging from complaining to it wasn't fair blah blah blah.

I sat and thought about it for a while.
She may or may not be able to afford it. She might be backing out.
I can't control any of that.
Should I post on here asking what to say, what to do?

I went back to work and pondered for a bit:
She said she was willing to go, I want to go, I can at least make the first appointment happen even if it is hard to afford.
That is what I want so that is what I'm going to do.
If I struggle financially it was my choice to go ahead and that's my problem.

I told her I would cover this one and go from there.
It now arranged and we will either get there or we won't.

Remember how you did this. This is valuable.

You didn't let emotion rule your head.

You made your decision based on what your value was here (I'm assuming it's that MC is important for you right now).

You didn't take her answer personally and create a story around it based on your "stuff."

That's why knowing your values and your boundaries is so important. Decision making becomes much easier.

You can do this.

Thanks labug,

Even though it took quite a bit of unnatural thought from me it felt right once I applied it.
It's a much more simpler process. One that I would like to get used to.