Husband Threatened to Leave, Don't know what to do

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Maybe not, but there is definitely more to what he's going through than what he is telling you. And you can't be responsible for fixing things you don't know about.

I'm starting to wonder if he actually knows himself what's going on? He doesn't seem to have an answer? He really looks lost in his feelings. He stated again today, " I'm just miserable" and I asked him what it is and he shrugged his shoulders and said he doesn't know.

You're going through "analysis paralysis" whereby you're breaking down every single thing that he's doing. If you keep doing this, THAT is what's unattractive and is going to drive him away. No one wants to live under another person's microscope.

Yes I definitely am. Its consuming my whole life right now. I can't even stomach food. It has totally wiped the last week of my life away.

You keep saying that he's "miserable". That's YOUR interpretation. He could have had a lousy day at work or something might have come up that he's trying to process. IT doesn't have to always be about the M. That's why I stressed that when you hug him you have to tell him that you can see something is bothering him and that while he may not want to talk to you now, you're there for him. Just the hug isn't enough.

Its not my interpretation MrBond. He has told me numerous times that he is "miserable" He said it again today. Yelled at my 7 year old then came and told me his "miserable" mood is being taken out on the kids and he hates it. I asked him if its work and he said no. I asked him if he wants to tell me anything and he said no. I asked if he wants to talk to somebody and he said "no!" I gave him and hug and he snuggled in with his head but no touch from his hands. He has been playing cheeky with me all day. Had his hand out earlier and i grabbed it and he pulled away and said "don't touch me" and I said "fine" and walked away and he goes "im just kidding, relax" and put his hand out for me again. Then later he told me I look really skinny lately (mainly cause i haven't eaten in a week) and I went to say thank you and give him a hug and he had this weird look in his eyes. I told him he looks like he wants to kill me and he goes " actions speak louder than words" , so I fought the tears and said "oh, ok" and tried to walk away and he grabbed me back and gave me a "half-hug". Like so confusing.

But all day has been talking about our weekend away coming up and we got a new fridge today that's been on order and he seemed excited about that and really isn't showing me signs of leaving per say. But he is a very independant man and if he wakes up one day and thinks its me and this marriage he will walk our regardless.

One other quick comment he made was a joke...but not really. He asked if my best friend can reschedule her wedding in August cause his baseball team windup is that day. Like sounds like his priorities are way out of line. Even though he was joking...I know he wishes it were do-able.