It's really not about sex for me, it's about the BIG picture, I need lot's of physical loving and touching (not just sex). But to me Love is almost entirely PHYSICAL. If it is not physical love, then we are companions, not LOVERS, and God knows I have absolutely no desire to be companions, Lovers is FAR better.
My wife I guess shows me love by keeping house, working finances, cooking, raising kids, BEING A GOOD MOTHER. THis is where the problems start, she is focused on being a mother, rather then FIRST focusing on being my LOVER. We should ALWAYS strive to make our spouses FIRST in our lives, even ahead of kids.
Now about the sex and me taking away lovebank points. I can spend an hour on foreplay and then she flips on her back and says, "OK, Let's take care of you". That just really ruins the moment for me. I still go ahead and swallow my pride and have sex with her, but it makes me feel REAL UNIMPORTANT to her. She is withdrawing Lovebank points even while having sex!
