As far as the finacials, can you support the household on your own? I would seriously consider writing all the bills out and figuring out what u expect for help from her.
You've made comments about her living in a single bedroom, kitchenette, like she's single again. BEWARE. I'd seriously consider opening your own acct, and closing the joint acct (or at least putting a hold on it). I think you expecting her to be responsible for half an acct is dangerous in her current state of mind.
They get to that place, then realize they need new curtains, want to decorate the kitchen and bath their own way. It consumes them for a bit, and their finances. They become free in their mind and its a very perilous time. They discover a new freedom, and just don't act responsibly. She's lying to you now, and I would expect that trend to continue for a while unfortunetly.
I also think your right about the time you have the girls, maybe not 100% but certainly closer to 85-90%. I tried to go back and do some reading here and there, but couldn't really find a financially stable MLC spouse. Its always new cloths, makeovers, nails, tattoos, and generally irresponsibility. Plz be ready to protect yourself and your kids.
I generally think things have to hit rock bottom before they can get better, do you think she's hit rock bottom yet?
