I’ve been taking steps to move forward recently.

There were two items left linking X and myself legally. The first was a mutual fund. It was listed in the divorce paperwork and I had provided X with her half as part of our settlement.

The mutual fund company was not willing to change ownership based on the documentation submitted.
X was not willing to sign their documentation. She wanted half of the remaining balance.

I stewed in it for a bit, then, acquiesced. It is a small amount, and not worth the fight. The account was barely above the minimum needed to maintain it and all of that came from recent gains. In retrospect I should have simply closed it when I gave her half the first time. I am beyond caring if she counts coup on this.

The mutual fund company has lost a long time customer as I am shifting to a using a performance fee based fund manager through work.

The second item is the RV. We chose it to fit our desires. It was jointly titled. We are no more. It was a reminder and not one I could easily divest myself of. We were upside down at the time of the D. I retained it and used the liability to negate another asset. I have been attempting to become right side up with it.

I reached break even a couple of months ago and have used it as a trade in on something better suited to my lifestyle and the direction I desire to go. The replacement will be a budget strain for a bit, however I am excited about it and the possibilities it offers to me. The best part is there are no memories tied to the new unit, only future opportunities.

The drama between the children seems to be easing. There is work still getting them moved in and settling the estate seems drowned in a quagmire. Those are small frustrations that will either become worked out or not.

The house is next door, 200 feet distant, the yards are separated by trees and scrub bushes. It is easy for me to visit and I have not. This is difficult sometimes. I don’t view this as martyring myself; rather I believe we will all be healthier if I maintain some separation while they settle in.

I have been asked to sit with GD on Friday evening while the kids go out.

BITS
Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55
D 30
S 27

You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill