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Can anyone else chime in on the bolded questions above?

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Also, when the WAW talks about how we were not a good couple, etc. That's not something I should be validating, is it?

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Sure...

Is it unreasonable to be annoyed that the thing she is asking for is money? Nope. Not in my book.

I wouldn't give her any money. Giving her monetary help right now sets a dangerous precedent. If you give her money now and she asks for more... what do you say then?

W - "But Lefty... you gave me money before and now I REALLY need some..."

L- "But... but... but..."

W- "See? See how you are? You haven't changed a bit! Oh, nice ass, BTW..."

Just thinking...


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Oh, I'd love it if she said, "nice ass" to me!

Seriously though, I know you're right. What about my question on validation?

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Interesting question, lefty...

How to validate negative issues...

How about... "I see it as a situation that feed off of each side and resulted to where we are right now. You have made a good point. Yes."

"Could you define "good" as it pertains to us? I would like to understand your side and where you are coming from."

Just thinking some more...


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My W told me that I was looking good. All i said was "Thank you".

"Yeah, baby... I did all for you!" How about.. "Well, since you left me for a lard ass, I decided that needed to look as hot as I could to get me another woman."

That might have been good, eh?

Uhmmmmm... No.

Hahahahahahahahahaha!


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Last time the W gave me the "we're just not good for each other" spiel I said, "I guess we'll have to agree to disagree on that" and smiled. I figured I didn't want to agree but I didn't want to appear disagreeable or wheedling. I'll remember your suggestions next time I get the spiel, because I'm sure I will.

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Yes. I understand the spiel.

I got the "It is a moot point" spiel. Yeah.


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Well, I'm not sure if her reply was genuinely understand or tight-lipped anger, but it went better than expected.

I wonder how long until I hear from her again, and what the reasons for it will be? I miss just talking with her, I was hoping there would be some that. It's only been a week since we have started talking again, so I guess there's time.

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I see Mr. Expectation peeking around the corner at you...

Throw a rock at him. Flip him the bird. Drop your drawers and give him a Moon Pie.


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