SailingAlone, thanks for this bit of advice here, I am going to follow that. I have been to worried about all of the events going on. We have a party that we throw every year for Civic Holiday, where we invite friends over and have a 'ribfest'. I was wondering if we were going to skip it this year. I have decided still to throw the party anyway and be happy about it and have fun I am not going to worry about H. I am going to go on living my life!!
This is exactly what you should be doing. Act happy and life goes on, with or without him. It'll make him think why are you happy and not depressed.
I am not going to worry about H. I am going to go on living my life!! 
