2 year A confirmed

[complicated]

Hi rh,
Thanks for your comments. I think I am just at the point where he cannot have contact with ow if he wants to work on m. I don't know how I would be able to work on forgiveness and trust knowing he couldn't give her up completely.

I can certainly appreciate how it would evolve and I do want him to have freedom. I guess I just want to go back to when I trusted him completely.

I so want things to work out in my sitch too but I don't think I could forgive or trust with him still having the contact with ow. Honestly I don't trust HER. The things she said to me has me believing she won't stop at anything and I think h sees this too.

I am so glad that things are progressing so nicely with you. I guess reading your thread I see that even though I am ready to move on it's not over until we both sign on the dotted line.

I also think a lot of this is my fault. I was so detached until right before the a was revealed. He started spending more time at the house. I think that is because he was thinking about ending the a. Then she revealed it.

Things have been so up and down ever since. I feel like I got pulled back into everything because he said he was done with her. And I think I was willingly pulled back in because I miss having that relationship. I miss having someone to share things with, someone to love and be loved.

I don't know. I feel like I am going through mlc now. lol

Thanks for your input rh. I'm so confuled these days.