About the listening, I am, but I think what she's saying is that I'm not agreeing that it's best to get a D quickly so she can be happy, etc. So, in that respect, I guess DBing by it's very nature is "not listening." But I try to validate her feelings every time we interact, so if that's what she means, she'll probably see that as "not listening."
Therein lies the problem of course. Trying to watch for meaningful communication when we can't trust what they say. I keep hearing MWD saying "your W will tell you in no uncertain terms that she was never happy in the relationship..." True that!
Staying the course. She knows my stance on the D, and waiting to see if her infatuation lasts (not that I said that directly to her that way), but that I won't purposely delay or try to hide from a process server or anything like that. She's very afraid of that and keeps giving me dire warnings of bringing more trouble to myself if I do that - I just let those slide. There's no response I could give on that.
