Husband Threatened to Leave, Don't know what to do

[TrentC]

I guess I'm just more scared he is going to think whatever is bugging him is me even though it isn't.

Listen: You are not responsible for his happiness.

Really, you're not. If he's having a bad day then he's having a bad day. Neither of you can take that pressure. You're worried that he's going to decide that the one time you don't kiss him when he wants you to is going to be the straw that broke the camel's back, and you can't make everything he says and does about you or your marriage.

At the same time, I think his joke about "maybe I won't leave you now" is incredibly inappropriate! He's got you scared and worried about the future of your marriage, so he doesn't get to joke like that for a while.

It's really hard to be around him when he is like this. He worked out last night at midnight and at 2 am he wasn't home yet. I called to see where he was cause the gym is empty and he said it can be dangerous lifting alone the night before so ingot worried. He said he was "driving around" and still so miserable. Came home and watched tv and didn't come to bed till 4 am. Now he is still in bed and still miserable. He did grab my hand for a cuddle but now nothing....

OK, now I'm calling bullshit.

There is definitely more to all of this than meets the eye. He's complained about a lack of physical affection, he's staying out and not telling you where he is, and something is eating at him that he's not telling you about.

And let's be honest, he's cheated before.

If I remember correctly, you were sure that there was no OW the last time this happened right up until you found out there was. I'm not saying that you should snoop, but you may want to consider that possibility.