Just about the transparency thing. I still don't have that with my H. As lately as two weeks ago he said he couldn't ever foresee a time when we would share FB passwords, for example, despite the fact that in MC over a year ago he said that he desired "total transparency" in his "next R".
In my case (no specific OW of which I am aware) transparency seems to be evolving not something I could demand up front.
H still needs total freedom and seems to be that as long as HE is the one to choose to reveal his "secret life" little by little to me, he is okay with it.
My goal has been to develop and strengthen my R with him and let the little inconsistencies fall by the wayside. This may not work for you, idk.
Thank you so much for your kind thoughts on my thread. I want so much for things to work out for you
rH
Me54/H47 '08 H is "done" March '12 H moved out Brink of D, December '12 2014 totally reconciled! ...... "I firmly believe in the...absolute possibility of marriage renewal." Jim Conway
