Husband Threatened to Leave, Don't know what to do

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"Again, why? HE had the bad day and you didn't do what I suggested with the hug. YOU can show your support, but ultimately it's up to him if he wants to tell you about what's bugging him. In this case, there really didn't seem like there was anything you did wrong. You can't keep taking things so personally. If you do, then you are going to start overreacting to his actions (like you did in the morning) and THAT is going to drive him away.

I agree I didn't do anything wrong. Our last interaction for the day was a good one and he can home miserable which couldn't have been anything to do with me. I guess I'm just more scared he is going to think whatever is bugging him is me even though it isn't.

It's really hard to be around him when he is like this. He worked out last night at midnight and at 2 am he wasn't home yet. I called to see where he was cause the gym is empty and he said it can be dangerous lifting alone the night before so ingot worried. He said he was "driving around" and still so miserable. Came home and watched tv and didn't come to bed till 4 am. Now he is still in bed and still miserable. He did grab my hand for a cuddle but now nothing....

Last night I asked him if it was anything he wanted to talk about. He said no and I have him a hug and walked away. Did exactly what you told me.

I know in doing all the right things. I'm starting to wonder if he has something mentally going on. He is going from such extreme high's to such extreme lows from day to day. And I'm being put through the ringer expected to walk around with a happy face and not be affected. When I'm just waiting for him to say he is leaving...

I'm sorry you're going through this. His joke was insensitive for sure. He's threatening to leave you and your three kids. There's nothing to joke about there. But what I've learned is you have to not let him affect your PMA. You have to remain as cool as you possibly can with this.

How do you do this with a "miserable" mooded person?

As I right this he is up now and not as bad as last night but not good. Gave him a hug and he hugged me back tight. I really hope he is starting to realize there is something conflicting inside him and it isn't me...