Yes, I've read DB and the 5LL and am ordering DR tomorrow. I haven't played to prediction game yet but have seen you mention it a few times on your thread and will have to try it out since you said it's helping you. And thank you, I really am trying to overcome my funky mood!
Me: 27 H: 27 Together: 11, M: 3 S 2 BD: 06/24/13 Living together H: EA - unknown current status Read: DB, 5LL (slowly reading DR) Back and forth we go...
Thanks for your comments chl0901, I really appreciate it. I am going to be 35 in a few months so part of it is also wanting to feel a little light and airy again. I feel figuratively heavy.
I understand this totally. I want "light and airy" back too
I know you have a lot on your plate, but I hope you take some time to relax, do some fun activities, even if just once a week!
me: 30 H:30 tgthr:7 m:4 no kids 5 counseling sessions initiated by H as a LR: Oct 2012 long distance marriage b/c of work since Nov 2012 official BD: July 2013 nothing filed 1/1/14 I dropped the rope
I had a pedicure toward the end of my pregnancy that felt sooo amazing on my semi-swollen feet! I brought a book and was in heaven!
Me: 27 H: 27 Together: 11, M: 3 S 2 BD: 06/24/13 Living together H: EA - unknown current status Read: DB, 5LL (slowly reading DR) Back and forth we go...
chl0901, the prediction game has actually worked the past three days. I think it's something like if you think your day will go a particular way you subconsciously do things to get that result. (Maybe I let things slide that I normally would have vocalized -- like yesterday with the juice I had a minor slip up but recouped and came on here and vented instead. Since I didn't vocalize, he didn't get upset in return, and we were able to have an "ok" day).
I am going to get a manicure/pedicure and eyebrow wax the day before my section with my mom who will be in from out of town for the big day! I can't wait.
Mimi30, does sitting in Sbux by myself reading count? It is not "big fun" or anything but I have been doing that once a week for the past few weeks and it's my alone time for sure.
Me 35 H 34 DS- newborn 8/13 T 8.5 M 7 H's EA - 10/11 INILWY 5/13 DBing 6/13 Don't know WTF to do 1/14
I got my hair cut and lightened today. My MIL noticed, I wonder if he will. I like it so even if he doesn't it is a good pick-me-up during this pregnancy.
He called today and every time he does I get so excited and pick up forgetting that things are not normal with us. I have to learn how to not be so available and not pick up every single time he calls. The call was short but kinda sad bc we both know that these are not what our normal conversations are like.
God, won't you please send my lover and friend back to me? Please ... I am breaking down crying now and I haven't in weeks.
Me 35 H 34 DS- newborn 8/13 T 8.5 M 7 H's EA - 10/11 INILWY 5/13 DBing 6/13 Don't know WTF to do 1/14
Hi lost, I got my hair done last month and was hoping H would notice or say something but he never did. However, pretty much everyone else I know did, so I know that he did notice. I made the mistake of having an expectation from him!
As long as you like it, that's what matters!
Me: 27 H: 27 Together: 11, M: 3 S 2 BD: 06/24/13 Living together H: EA - unknown current status Read: DB, 5LL (slowly reading DR) Back and forth we go...
. Mimi30, does sitting in Sbux by myself reading count? It is not "big fun" or anything but I have been doing that once a week for the past few weeks and it's my alone time for sure.
Of course!
Originally Posted By: lost_hope
I got my hair cut and lightened today. My MIL noticed, I wonder if he will. I like it so even if he doesn't it is a good pick-me-up during this pregnancy. [quote=lost_hope] He called today and every time he does I get so excited and pick up forgetting that things are not normal with us. I have to learn how to not be so available and not pick up every single time he calls. The call was short but kinda sad bc we both know that these are not what our normal conversations are like.
I haven't heard from my H in 6 days. All week when phone rings or a text message comes through I grab it thinking it's him because that's what I am used to, but it's no longer him.
Even thought things aren't normal, when your H calls, let him hear that you're excited he called, maybe even tell him that seeing it was him calling made your day...try to stay upbeat even if he sounds sad.
Originally Posted By: lost_hope
God, won't you please send my lover and friend back to me? Please ... I am breaking down crying now and I haven't in weeks.
(((hugs)))
me: 30 H:30 tgthr:7 m:4 no kids 5 counseling sessions initiated by H as a LR: Oct 2012 long distance marriage b/c of work since Nov 2012 official BD: July 2013 nothing filed 1/1/14 I dropped the rope
*typo in my above post. I meant to say "Even though things aren't normal, when your H calls..."*
me: 30 H:30 tgthr:7 m:4 no kids 5 counseling sessions initiated by H as a LR: Oct 2012 long distance marriage b/c of work since Nov 2012 official BD: July 2013 nothing filed 1/1/14 I dropped the rope
Hi lost, I got my hair done last month and was hoping H would notice or say something but he never did. However, pretty much everyone else I know did, so I know that he did notice. I made the mistake of having an expectation from him!
As long as you like it, that's what matters!
Yes I do. He noticed but he doesn`t like it. He asked three times in the span of five minutes this morning `why did you do that to your hair` Mind you it`s a switch from off black to dark chestnut brown so nothing too drastic. I told him if he`s not going to pay me a compliment then he shoudl just shut it. I said a lot more than that in a lot meaner way beause I slid off the Db bandwagon hardcore last night and revereted back to angry and sad and betrayed ... Anyway, so I am not even sure if he doens`t like it or he`s annoyed that I dind`t consult him first (I always do for every move I make, but why the heck would I do that now in the current state of affairs). I ended it by saying `because I needed a change`then left fot work.
Me 35 H 34 DS- newborn 8/13 T 8.5 M 7 H's EA - 10/11 INILWY 5/13 DBing 6/13 Don't know WTF to do 1/14
. Mimi30, does sitting in Sbux by myself reading count? It is not "big fun" or anything but I have been doing that once a week for the past few weeks and it's my alone time for sure.
Of course!
Originally Posted By: lost_hope
I got my hair cut and lightened today. My MIL noticed, I wonder if he will. I like it so even if he doesn't it is a good pick-me-up during this pregnancy. [quote=lost_hope] He called today and every time he does I get so excited and pick up forgetting that things are not normal with us. I have to learn how to not be so available and not pick up every single time he calls. The call was short but kinda sad bc we both know that these are not what our normal conversations are like.
I haven't heard from my H in 6 days. All week when phone rings or a text message comes through I grab it thinking it's him because that's what I am used to, but it's no longer him.
Even thought things aren't normal, when your H calls, let him hear that you're excited he called, maybe even tell him that seeing it was him calling made your day...try to stay upbeat even if he sounds sad.
Originally Posted By: lost_hope
God, won't you please send my lover and friend back to me? Please ... I am breaking down crying now and I haven't in weeks.
(((hugs)))
I'm so sorry you're going through this Mimi30. Your post broke my heart. I wondner why we have to go through all this sometimes. Anyway, hope you get that call from him soon.
It's hard to get excited about business phone calls or silent/awkward ones. He knows just the effect he still has on me! I may need to do the opposite. Go dark a bit and distance so he doesn't always think I'm avail. Like today I'd like to not answer his calls, but we're coordinating some famuly who is in from out of town so I can't not pick up in the next few days.
Me 35 H 34 DS- newborn 8/13 T 8.5 M 7 H's EA - 10/11 INILWY 5/13 DBing 6/13 Don't know WTF to do 1/14
I am breaking down crying now and I haven't in weeks.