Originally Posted By: labug
About the being hot when and if you break up. It's putting a lot of pressure on you and the baby. Looking hot or not looking hot isn't he reason men leave or stay. They may say all those things but it's not the core and I would guess you probably know that to be true. The core of this has nothing to do with you and that's what makes this so flippin' difficult.

However, I completely understand that feeling of wanting to look fantastic. You might, you may have the genetics.

About the juice, did you really expect him to get juice for you? Those pesky expectations. He's marching to a different drummer and probably thinks he's doing you a great favor by continuing to live with you. Getting juice would have indicated that he had some feeling for you and he's trying to show the opposite of that. It succks. It's painful but you can't change him and it seems he sees no need to change. You are the source of all his unhappiness (in his head). We all know that's not true but that's what you're dealing with.

You can only take care of yourself, which for me would mean spending as little time with him as possible. That may not work for you.

Do you have friends? Can you get out of the house after work? Or go have a massage? Pedicure? Yoga? Divorce support group?



Lol, labug. Don't know why but the bolded made me laugh so much. smile Not sure if that was your intention but thanks for the smile.

I know looking hot won't make him stay but he did mention about me wearing makeup. Also that is the fun 180s as far as I'm concerned b/c I like doing those things. Finally, even if doesn't make him stay (which I know it won't/cant't) if he leaves I want him to see that I'm not some depressed mess who has given up. They say sometimes that post breakup the best thing a woman can do is look great.

I have friends, but I just honestly don't have time for too much socializing now. I have a condo to pack, move to orchestrate, closings on both properties, preparing for temporary stay with MIL, etc etc. All the GAL/socializing will have to be put on hold until 1-2 months after. I literally don't have the time now ... I'm ok. You know what? I come on here and vent a lot, but I am totally handling things better than even a week ago. I still have slip ups but I've averted arguments twice this week -- once about the car and today about the juice. I am projecting a more calm and collected approach for sure.

Thanks for stopping by my thread and commenting, very much appreciated.


Me 35 H 34
DS- newborn 8/13
T 8.5 M 7
H's EA - 10/11
INILWY 5/13
DBing 6/13
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