I leave work at 3 to pick up my children from school. I am home before the wife, I clean, vacumn, sometimens cook, drive the kids everywhere, do what ever I can around the house. In fact, now when I offer to do MORE, the wife starts complaining I do too much. So I guess that doing things around the house for the wife DOES NOT INCREASE THEIR LIBIDO's! Does your wife think you do these things to GET sex. I think my wife may think this way. Does your wife tell you to get out and make yourself happy? I find this so bizarre, my ND wife wants me to find activities that make me happy as she thinks I am depressed at times. So in her ND way of thinking, she see happiness as DOING things that are NOT SEXUAL. She thinks I will be happy by having hobbies, friends, going places, etc.. but it never crosses her mind that I want INITMACY and SEXUALITY. Does your wife ever think this way, that you need to find something to make you happy? I tell you the ND woman has thinking patterns that are obviously VERY different from a man's. My eife is also like yours, they want the sex issue to just go away. They will not admit that THEY have a problem. I have told my wife that she suffers from Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder, and she went ballistic. The truth is she is HSDD. So how to help a woman to recognize that she has this problem, and how to help her with it? The woman of course will lash out at you for being such a sex maniac, but we are not, we are NORMAL. They just can not admit that they are abnormal, they will blame us for every problem, when the real truth is that they have no clue as to what happened to their sex drives and they have no clue as to how to get them back. How to get these women to read the SSM, when they know that to correct the situation, they have a steep hill to climb.
