Well we have movement...I think W wants me to sign papers saying we are legally separated..she says she wants to do this so she can get government assistance...This does not seem right to me because she can work full time but she chooses not to and her parents have been putting money in her retirement which is more than 100,000 already! and she is going to inherit property that this year was valued at 1.4 million...I just don't like this at all...bothers me a lot...
Tough night...W told d{12} that she is not coming back...I don't know if she means it or not...W is real emotional right now and my D's don't want to be over at her place any longer than they have too...So maybe she thinks if she spells it out for them she thinks they will adjust....mind reading I know...
Well tough day...I am going to take the girls to vacation in Sandpoint Idaho and invited W...D{12} was really wanting her mom to come but of course W made no effort to get off work...even though it would only be 2 days...so she made it so she could go but we would have to leave on a friday and be back on a sunday....it is a 8 hour drive one way...She knew I would say no to that...of course I did and now she says well your Papa said no....but I am remaining calm about it...just feel really bad for D{12} lots o tears tonight...sigh...I am going to try my best to make her have a good time...
Well we have movement...I think W wants me to sign papers saying we are legally separated..she says she wants to do this so she can get government assistance...
Personally my advice is to go along with it, don't fight her on it. I wouldn't help her with the paperwork or anything, but if she prepares it and all you have to do is sign then go ahead.
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Tough night...W told d{12} that she is not coming back...I don't know if she means it or not...W is real emotional right now
She probably meant it at that moment, but in her emotional state her feelings are constantly changing. I would just tell D12 to hold hope in her heart, and that you both love her very much and will always be there for her no matter what happens.
Originally Posted By: 7720
She knew I would say no to that...of course I did and now she says well your Papa said no....but I am remaining calm about it...just feel really bad for D{12} lots o tears tonight...sigh...I am going to try my best to make her have a good time...
I took my kids on a vacation a couple of months ago, it was our traditional yearly trip to the Ozarks but without W for the first time. We had an absolute blast!! Don't worry about your W not being there, just focus on having a great time with D. Try something new and different. We did ziplining for the first time and it was awesome!
Well yes I am looking forward to the trip...not too worried about W not coming.... D{12} kept calling her to get her to come...of course W is blaming this on me...and thinking that I am prodding her to do it...which I am not as W can be grumpy and $$ on trips; at this point I would rather be just with my girls...D{12}is really mad at her M but I am going to stay out of it, I know W will want to talk about it tonight when I have to go over there so she can see Girls before we leave...if she is going to push me to talk about it I am going to tell her I am sorry but I don't want to talk about it...that is between you and D{12}....Just don't know how to say it yet
Hi 7720 My H texted me this past Sunday wanting to know why S14 wasn't responding to calls/ texts. I, like you, do not want to be in the middle of it so I responded " I don't know. Maybe you can ask him" and left It at that.
Enjoy your trip with your girls!!!
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well didn't have to have talk with W because D{7} was around. W wants the girls tonight because I am getting them for part of her time...they don't want to go especially D{12} who does not know yet..but she will be mad..and they can work it out...W always just wants the kids to act like nothing about this bothers them..that is how she has had to live her life..always acting as if she is happy even when she is not. I guess that is also an American cultural thing...we always have to be happy or pretend. I just need to focus on my girls and the trip ahead..
well just got back from trip...and W was angry we did not call more and tell her when exactly we were coming back...I told her she could have called and she said she did a lot but I checked the phone records and saw that no she did not call a lot but I did not tell her that. W also told me that her boss wants to hook her up with her "rich friend" soley because he has money...that kinda hurt...
ughhh...Talked to d{12} she said she got in a big fight with W, I asked what about she said defending me...that makes me sad..I have not had a time to talk to her about the details yet because she was at W's house.
