Well, she apparently spends some time in the morning dusting and vacuuming, and does some cleaning on the weekends. Our D is a toddler, but I don't think her needs are any higher than any other normal toddler.
As for hoping for the "reward", this may be true, but no "reward", even in the form of more affection, is forthcoming. Which is one reason why I kind of want to stop going out of my way cleaning. I'm thinking that doing her laundry is something I can stop. Maybe even cooking for her.
She runs the financial part of the household, regarding paying bills and such. I tried to do that but kind of screwed it up. I'm not complaining about the way she does the finances. What I am complaining about is that she has dictated what we do (or don't do) in our marriage bed, and I am tired of that, and want it to change. The first thing I wanted to change was her understanding of the importance of sex for me. To that end, I presented her with the SSM book last weekend. As noted before, she has yet to pick it up, got very upset when I suggested she read it, and I've been asked to "lay off" the issue.
Regarding my relationship with my mother, and whether my W is my mother, I don't think there's a lot going on there, although my W sometimes treats me like a child. I didn't have a lot of conflict with my mom, was the youngest child, and got plenty of attention, because, of course, I was the cutest and smartest one.
