Two roads diverged in a yellow wood...

[Not Quitting]

Thumpered is right, as hard as it is to do.

We've probably all been through, or are in, the "can't do everything right and everything we do is wrong" stage. I certainly have more than once. Until that fog of his lifts he is trying to justify his misery by blaming you, whether you actually had anything to do with the issue or not.

You have to concentrate on you. You can't fix him or get rid of his issues for him; the only person in your M that you can do anything about is you. Vent on here, never to him.

Even you feeling that you may not be in love with him any more is normal given what you're going through. There have been times when I hated my H for what he's doing to our family, but it doesn't last because my love for him is still stronger than that. There have been times when I wished I could hate him but I can't even stay mad at him for long.

This is a long road, and there's going to be lots of ups and downs. Baby steps, and slow and steady is the only way forward for us. We are in for a long, bumpy ride whether we like it or not. There is no quick fix for this. This is one time when patience really is a virtue.