Enough - time to move on

[JustStunned]

She may not care, or she may; she may have been trying to prove a point or push her agenda.

My X didn’t seem to think more than 1 or 2 steps ahead and always put herself first. I think she was in crisis and was incapable of rational planning. I think she was too unhappy and in pain to do more than seek immediate gratification in an effort to enable herself to feel better and bring closure to a situation she believe untenable.

That said I have known people that behaved outrageously to push their partners along.

If you can get to a point where you can accept this relationship is dead then you can begin to establish the next. Change is constant. Change can be frightening or exciting depending upon our perceptions of change. Work toward acceptance of change and make changes that constantly improve yourself, your situation or that of your children. Change is disruptive and as parents we have an obligation to our children to temper our reactions smoothing change in their lives.

The next relationship will be based and or biased on remnants of this one. If you can move forward with honor, grace and dignity toward yourself, your children and your spouse then you will set a stage for a better outcome.

It isn’t easy. It likely isn’t fair. Life is not easy or fair it just is and how we comport ourselves is a measure of our character. Children look to parents for examples, give them the best you can.