I just can't get you off of my mind

[reachingHigher]

Hi FY,

I am so sorry your sitch is in this stuck place right now.

I agree with what the other posters said, except wouldn't stay out all night. W is too sensitive and may see that as a stab in her heart. But the "idea" of you not always being there for her for the rest of her life is an interesting one to ponder.

You know the main theme my H left me with when he moved out was that he felt no passion in life ... not just in love ... and he wanted to feel that again.

I would say that he now does. It took depression, near-D, AD's and all that you know we have been through.

I know you have a good gut feeling about what to do. I found a combination of withdrawing while connecting seemed to work. The best I can figure is that my H knew I was always there as a friend. He used those terms many times. And he seemed encouraged that I would seek a good life on my own after D. But when it came down to it, he really didn't want to lose me.

It's not anything you didn't already know, but just wanted you to know I really feel for you and I fully believe W can rediscover full passion for you and her life. She is just not ready. And H wasn't ready either for a very long time. He had to prove to himself there wasn't a better life out there. When he saw that he could be lonely forever, or have a difficult life in establishing something new at his age, or he could possibly rediscover bliss with me, he made his decision to see a doctor and went on the AD's for three months.

It's been a rough road but well worth it. You would appreciate that I made him late for work this morning