T2, Your wife is baking up nicely, slowly but surely. The position at the thrift store has really helped w/her esteem issues.
You've done an excellent job of being a friend to her and that will continue a while longer. Bottom line, she knows that she has a really great guy for a husband and is trying to find her way back to you.
Hang in there!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.