Her depression is so clear, FY. So clear. She is swimming in mud for sure, trying to grab onto a branch or rock to pull herself up and out.
It is just too much effort for her to do anything to change her life. She does the least she can, I suspect, with GAL.
Doing anything about your marriage or working through her stuff is too hard for her right now.
So, she knows she is stuck, that is a good thing. She knows she doesnt feel right also good.
And I know it seemed like it wasnt about you and mostly it isnt in MLC and depression.
But I did see some good things in there, FY. She sees you standing by her, sees you being kind and supportive. I see that it matters to her.
She is working her way through. But, oh boy, at a snail's pace for sure. This is so hard for her.
Originally Posted By: Foreveryoung
I'm thinking I need to initiate R talks once in a while to help her feel "unstuck". The timing of when I do this will be important. Mostly just listen and let her talk. Let her know that I think we are a great team, and can be an even better one.
Also gently let her know that if she's so sure there's no hope for passion and love between us then let's end the M. Go out and find whatever you're searching for, my love... Just don't expect me to be a best friend after demoting me from H.
I think you are exactly right in this ^^^^^. I think the time is coming for you to say that to her. She clearly needs a push in some direction.
FY, you are a special man. I know how difficult this is for you. You are in my prayers.
