Hi FY ~

Your W keeps saying that she wants to feel passion, and that she doesn't think she can have that with you.

To me, that is a numbness caused by depression. Nothing to do with you at all!

I remember my H telling me at bomb that he "felt like a shell of a person", and that his feelings for me "had definitely changed".

The thing is, I think the depression makes them so numb inside they have a hard time feeling anything. So they search for that magical thing that can awaken those feelings again.

For my H, it was FT. But now a year and a half down the road, it seems he's discovering that she's not all she's cracked up to be. And... His feelings for me seem to be slowly resurfacing.

Your W's feelings for you are buried deep within her FY. They didn't just go away.

In sorting through spew my H has told me, he said that he needs space to work through stuff and that he can't give me a timeline. I told him that I understood, but that I won't live this way forever.

So he knows I won't stay in limbo I definitely. I'm not going to keep repeating it. Going to keep going till that has tank is on e. smile

I see a lot of positives in your sitch - she's still at home, no OM, dating doesn't appeal to her, she wants to keep up appearances, she is still nice to you, talks to you, tells you things.

I think you still have some gas in the tank. Keep going smile


Bomb January 2012 - doesn't feel the same about me

~ "There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance."