Your H will most likely say whatever gives him the easiest way out. He doesn't want to deal with you being upset so he tells you whatever he thinks you want to hear. Or maybe, he even believes himself at the moment of telling you.
But then he turns and does whatever he pleases.
He has shown you that at this moment he has no self control. It will go easier on you if you stop expecting him to suddenly have good judgement and self control.
Sorry about the latest development. On the bright side, there's not too much left for H to do... so you should have a break from these unpleasant surprises for a while.
You have said you resent people telling you what to do and I understand that. But I'm going to make a suggestion anyway. There are steps you can take to protect yourself without going as far as D. You need to take them. If that means legal separation with a formal order of support in place - then do that. Also you should address the custody issue. Your H could turn on a dime and decide the boys should be with him. Please don't say
"Oh no, H wouldn't do that. He said he would do this and that."
Because he has shown over and over that he is not a man of his word right now.
Take care of yourself K.
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.
