Snodderly - I have been having fun with family and friends, not busting a gut on the house!
Cadet, as to reconnecting with his kids, I think that the MLC handbook long since ceased to apply to my xh!! He is doing it his way. In fact I have come to the view that he has completed his MLC as far as he can without professional help which he will never ask for. The OW he got together with after our divorce appears to be a good influence on him and his behaviour, and I think that is the way it is going to be - he is probably doing the best he can, and I will leave it at that.
Today is my wedding anniversary, and it is always just a little sad. Since the death of all of our parents we are probably the only people in the world who remember the day (not something you burden your kids with post MLC)
They say that the MLCer remembers. I rather doubt this in my case. So probably just me, but I am having a good day all in all.
Recovering our past is hard - that is the one thing that the MLCer really robs us of. It becomes unsafe - you wonder at what point they bailed, at what point it is all false? But then it comes not to matter, and it is how we and our children remember it, and that is as good, positive and happy. Screw them (if the censor allows that one!)
So to newcomers, it is OK in the end whatever happens. You did your best.
