Hi folks. Had another confrontation today and would like your views. This morning, my W was in the kids’ bathroom and told me that it really needed to be cleaned. I said that I had asked the kids to clean it yesterday, and that I thought they had done a pretty good job. She pointed at some grunge around the shower door, and some dust on the floor near the wall (I hadn’t asked them to scrub the floor), and said it really needed to be taken care of. I guess I rolled my eyes, and she berated me for that. She said I ALWAYS roll my eyes when she asks me to do something. (Exaggeration). I told her that I don’t always do that, but that she does it too. She asked “when do I roll my eyes?” I said, “Whenever I bring up the subject of sex.” She said, “Oh, I forgot, that’s one of MY duties.” Then she said, “you know, we talked about this last weekend and you really need to lay low on that subject for a while. If you don’t, we are just going to go back to me being bitchy all the time.”
I said, “calling it a ‘duty’, sarcastically, is just more of your minimizing my views on the subject.”
I walked out, because I was about to say a lot of things I would later regret, such as, “it’s not a duty, but that really says a lot about your mind set” and “what do you mean we’ll ‘go back’ to your being bitchy all the time?”
Her asking me to "lay low" on the subject seems to confirm to me that she just wants me to go back to being my complacent little self, not confronting her on this issue. That always seems to be the pattern. I bring it up, she blows up, I lay low, I get tired of laying low for days and then weeks and then months, so I bring it up again. Of course, she always claims that she was just starting to feel comfortable again, and now I've set the whole clock back.
