Amen. I stayed home to day so I got to visit a little more with you. Thank you CeMar for letting me vent. I apologize for the "stuck on stupid" comment. I work in a non-traditional job so I am around a lot of men. I KNOW which ones are due to come in shell-shocked. The first clue is when they start complaining about she has nothing to say. All she wants to do is talk about a bunch of stuff and then she doesn't want do anything but talk and they are sick of hearing her go on and on about nothing important. That guy is gonna go home and find his stuff on the porch. For the gals it's that "do whatever you want you always do" line that guys give. If it's something they don't care about that is normal but if you KNOW he wanted to go to Hawaii and he hates wilderness and he gives you that line you are in deep water.
Now let me make this point. I still ain't getting sex. I still can't check out the checkbook without him getting upset. He still treats me like a queen in public and poison in private. I ain't firgured out what works, yet. My hope is by talking here and continuing the things that are working I will turn this around. My mate always seems to be one step up on me most times.
Next point I want to make. It is not what we think the problem is that is important it is what they think the problem is. I hear too many women complaining how they don't know their H are home until they check his chair in front of the TV. I hear too many men complain that they stopped doing stuff because they couldn't get anything "right". Therefore, they think it is true then it is true. My H will tell you a long list of all he does for me every day. I am amazed at the lenght of his list. Whatever I do gets shorten to "you were suppose to do that, what you want a cookie". When we deal with these mates of ours I think we have to make an effort to see their point of view. Most men think their wives know they work hard for them. No they don't. They think the men work for themselves, to look good to others and to spend time anywhere but at home.
I don't like scary movies, corned beef, french fries and riding on motorcycles. But if that what my mate likes then I get in there and spend time with him doing what he likes. You can't spell team with an I. Don't let your mate be the only one giving in.
