From just reading the little you posted here, I would say there is NO relationship with him anymore. I cannot fathom how you could be together 14 years and then he just drops you, but that seems like what has happened. You need to stop thinking about him period. He is history. Move on.
I give this advice, but I also understand how hard it is. Last night I went to dinner with my 3 kids and so many things reminded me of my W. We've been married 22 years.... half of my life together. If my R with her ends, I realize that this long history means she will always be with me. Yet, rational brain says you need to move on because the MLCer has.
