Ruby, just a couple of things, if that is ok.

I am not sure if need and respect are being confused. I am all about real feelings.

So, in actuality, none of us need our spouses. We can survive without them, right?

But, if we are in a relationship, I think both of us want to feel respected.

To me that means that I value the other person's opinion, I acknowledge his virtues and the things he does for me.

And if you truly feel that way about him, he will feel that from you.

So, I think that you do need to respect that he is on his own journey and that may include seeing someone else.

I also think there is a way for you to honor his request to give him space and still show that you respect him.

It is a fine line. I believe you can walk it.