Surviving Separation

[slow_it_down]

Thanks white rose and I agree on the timeframe... Just have to have patience.

Also, tonight I'm so thankful for these boards because I once again find myself in a situation I've read many others to be in... And bc I was expecting it, the shock/emotion was almost non climactic.

I'm a duck, everything just rolls off my back.

Today H emailed to say he'd been to a lawyer about support and visitation and had inquired about insurance through his work. This is the first time he's done anything from a formal sense to move forward w/ the D. In a different time I think I would have panicked over the use of the word LAWYER and the formality of his email.

On the one hand he didn't say he'd seen the lawyer about divorce, just visitation and support... So that's good but doesn't necessarily mean anything.

On the other hand his wording makes it sound like he's expecting a fight on visitation. Personally I think it's great that he wants to see our S a lot. My H is a workaholic and if he wants to carve out time to see his son, more power to him.

The biggest thing I sensed from the email was that he wanted me to feel intimidated by him seeing a lawyer and that he's looking to rile me up. Well I'm not biting. I replied back with an upbeat response and said he should call when he's free.

I'm also trying to shut down the mind reading train since this happened as soon as his mom left town. Im assuming w/ no evidence whatsoever that she told him to seek council, protect himself, that the support I'm asking for is unreasonable... That him seeking legal advice was her protecting him from me. All fine things to do, but not something I won't to think about before I welcome her to stay in my home for 2 weeks when the baby is born.

I care a lot about his mom but its frustrating to think she'll help me out w/ laundry and cooking but has no problem telling her son to be stingy with money used to take care of her grandson.