Don't give her the money. It was HER choice to leave right? She has to deal with the consequences. Why should you even pay for the paralegal? It's like you paying for something you didn't want.
If you are going to lend her the money, then emphasize "lend" and see when you can get the money back.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.