Considering how BADLY LD spouses treat us when it comes to sex, how can we NOT be somewhat gun shy. When we GO FOR it, we get critized for doing just that, if it is at the wrong time, or wrong way, or wrong place, or (put excuss here).
Also, when I start to get my wife in the mood enough, then she will roll over and say "Let's Just get this done". So while I want to have a FULFILLING sexual encounter, the LD spouse is thinking "If I get him off quick enough, then I can roll over and get back to sleep". So even though they are PRESENT, their attitude really destroys the moment, which really wants us HD guys to come back for more.
I hate to say this, but the source of male CONFIDENCE is the admiration of a highly sexed wife. When a LD spouse shows no interest in sex with her man, that effectively shatters the mans confidence. A man's sexaulity permeates EVERY ASPECT OF HIS PERSONALITY. Rule #1: If you don't want sex with your husband, YOU DON'T WANT HIM.
