BklynMom,mizjjd, snodderly--thanks so much for chiming in. You are completely correct. Although there's been a lot of water under the bridge I still have moments of "what if he's had a change of heart?" when I stupidly try to suss out, as discreetly as possible, what is happening in his life.
Well, I went the indirect route--and it's very good that I chose that approach. Kml, great guess! A mutual friend told me today over lunch that xH is engaged and very happy and so is she, the bride to be.
Part of me is deeply deeply deeply hurt--the wound reopened. The other part of me says--well, this is what it is and I just have to look ahead. And he can't be that much transformed for the good in the past year since I last saw him, and then his mind was really messed up. I wonder how the OW does not realize it?
He met OW in Nov 2011 (from what I understand) and by March 2012 (less than 5 months later) he and she had bought an apartment together and were moving in. Now they are engaged. I guess the last shard of glass that could possibly cut my heart is to hear she is pregnant--that she is having the child that xH and I never had (and he never wanted).
Maybe he is well out of the crisis and he has understood that he needs an apartment to call home and a wife who is at home every night (and there is no commuting involved in the picture). He makes lots of money and was always stingy; from her profession I guess she also makes lots of money--much more than I could ever make in my profession, so probably he likes that as well. If that's the case, at least I am glad for him that he understood his needs and how to take care of them. But then his father told me this summer that he is very very tired and works too much.
