DB seemingly backfired w/ my H???

[lost_hope]

In regards to marriage, I like this quote "Don't give up. You'll gain strength when you're going through trials. The strongest marriages come from the greatest pains."

Because of quotes like that, I sometimes like to float off to dream land and believe that all the pain I am going through now, will be worth it, because in the end H will wake up, come back and we will be stronger b/c of it.

Then I wake up and realize yes I have gained strength through this, but it may not be for my marriage, it may simply just be for me.

I like that quote, too! Thanks for sharing.

I guess in the end, however our sitches end up, we will be the ones better off in the long run because we are the ones putting in the hard work to better ourselves.

And we really have to start believing that! As much as it hurts to be without them, if they're truly not willing to come back to the table (time will tell) then we have to have the wherewithall to move on without them. So many aspects of DB are just common sense and self-improvement. Like, why should we ever cry, beg, or plead with someone who has says they don't want us? Even if you want the person around, that's not good form and it certainly doesn't lead a person to respect you or want you in return.