Need help detaching

[chl0901]

Of course I am not allowed to say anything about anything

I know what you mean!

1. Lose baby weight and get in shape. I was a size 0 before pregnancy and have only gained about 22 pound so far and all in belly and boobs, so this should be easy. What I do anticipate however is that I will be flabby. In addition since I'm naturally skinny I never exercise (beyond the occasional random dance class). Once I recover from c section I'm going to incorporate fitness into my routine at least 5 times a week, mostly from home (have to be realistic with new baby) and occasional Pilates and dance classes outside the home (which I can use as part of my new mom approved GAL).

2. Focus more on hair and makeup. Apparently he was bothered by the fact that I don't wear makeup daily (never was a problem before in fact he used to tell me I don't need it) and pointed out that at 34 I'm no spring chicken. He didnt complain about hair but I've taken to buns and ponytais lately. After baby us born i will make it a point to do both daily, even if that means I have to wake up earlier than I want. I also may try new style and colour, though im very conservative so it wont ever be too drastic (brown instead of black, loose waves instead of stick straight). Since I'm not a morning person ill have to make sure I'm going to sleep earlier at night (once baby sleeps through the night of course).

3. Deal with my anxiety. I'm going to go to IC as soon as I can and also start on meds to help as needed.

4. Be more tidy around the house. Though this is not something I feel I should focus on (being the one who has always earned more / always worked) its important to him. I will be more conscientious about it but also will hire a cleaning lady to assist me in the much bigger Space were moving into.

5. I will try to be more patient with others and avoid high stress situations (interacting with customer service reps for instance).

Thoughts? Are these too superficial?

I don't think most of these are too superficial. I do have a couple of comments though. As far as losing your baby weight, since you were small before and haven't gained a great deal of weight, I don't think you will have a huge problem with the skin as you mentioned. I would just say to moisturize, moisturize, moisturize! I know a lot of it depends on your genes, but just give your body some time and do some light working out or walking and I'm sure you will be good there.

About the hair - I know what you mean! I started to live in buns!
I still wore my long hair up for about six months after my son was born because he would pull my hair out if I wore it down! I now try to make more of an effort by doing my hair a couple of times a week.

Even though I also work FT (like H) and I take care of S by a huge majority when I am home, I am also expected to keep a tidy/clean house and do the laundry, etc. I just try to think of it as for myself too, because I do like a pretty neat home. If you are able to hire some help for that, by all means do!

And as for the patience, a lot of people could benefit from having more! My S as a newborn gave me a whole new outlook on having patience - who knows, maybe you will have a similar experience!

Also labug, part of me wants to be hot if and when we break. I want him to see what he's going to be missing! Hence the hair, makeup, exercise. I know what's probably not a good reason but I'm being honest ...

And I can definitely relate with this thought as well! I don't think there's anything wrong with that...being hot for your H as well as yourself!