Wife said she was done! House sold, Moving forward

[Maritimer]

I am continuing to identify what my contribution to the breakup of the marriage was, mainly I took my marriage for granted.

I thought the love would always be present because of our vows. I now realize that it is a living organism that need consist nourishment to thrive.

Her emotional need were not meet be me. I'm responsible for not being more supportive over the years. I figured by being a good provider for the household and producing wonderful children it would mean a successful family.

I've relied too much on her to make me happy, her beauty and presents made me feel complete. I need to feel that from within, not by her.

By not respecting her concerns. When she brought up issues I thought were petty, it must have made her feel like I never respected her feelings.

I am a fixer, I was always trying to tell her how to resolve her family issues. She felt like I never respected her family by doing this. They are Native Canadian (Indian) in which their culture are much different from the way I was brought up.

Now I am working on forgiving myself for not recognizing these traits earlier in our relationship. Also I've got to figure out some way to forgive for the affects it will have on the children.

The book I am now reading called "No More Mr Nice Guy" is a real eye opener. I have many insecurities that I need to work on. I thought being a "nice guy" was all I needed to help have a happy life. This way of living has caused resentment and for my wife to not respect me.

Time for a paradigm shift. I turn 37 today and will learn from my past in order to create a happy future!

DB will be a huge part of this.