Questions without answers...am I stuck in place?

[RosaLinda]

Wow! "H can never touch my computer, it's a Mac and he's already Windows challenged, plus he knows I would know...my car, my computer, my ipad, my phone, soon my bed, are all off limits to him.

I really have detached quite a bit, we only have the business left and his meager attempts to make conversation over his schedule. Oh, and his still insistence on holding me at night, what is that? It's like in the dark, behind close doors, where even he doesn't have to admit it, he likes me."

You ARE amazingly detached Dawn. Wow! But yes, of course your H still likes you, behind closed OR open doors. He loves you. He just is going thru something right now, he does not know how to show it, his mind is messed up. Do you think he is planning to move in with EA when he leaves in Sept even though he said he might have to "make a commitment" to her? Is there anything he could say or do that will make you change your mind, such as if he gives up EA for good during August? Inquiring minds want to know

Nero, it is so hard to get our good humor and positive outlook on life back after being kicked in the teeth 23 or 24 times, isn't it? "idk- linda - my h used to make wiseguy comments i never took personally too- now all of a sudden - it 's all true, isn't it? it's not joking any more.
i don't know if he gets that or not. i don't think my h has much or any self- awareness"

No I'm sure your H does not realize how his "jokes" hurt you now. MLC seems to cause them to lose some of their "humanity." I don't know if that is the right word, but some ability to connect with other people. My H has dropped all of his friends except for RT, he doesn't even talk to his mother on the phone every week any more. When he makes a nasty remark he seems oblivious as to how it makes me feel. Or maybe he does it on purpose, I don't know. It's like he feels this is HIS time to do what he wants and say what he wants and every one else can just go scratch!

PS Dawn my H calls me stupid things too, that annoy the heck out of me. Like Sis. Pal. Buddy. Grrrrr they make me so mad. I used to say I am NOT your sister H. But I do not let him know anymore. Being called "Mama" would really tick me off