I just can't get you off of my mind

[ForeverYoung]

FY, have you thought about what you could do differently? I would think along the lines of what could be done to shock or jolt the current situation.

Yes.

It seems things could go on as is for quite a long time if I don't do something to shake things up.

The thing I believe is in my favor right now is she doesn't have an OM. Why wait around until one does show up, and makes things even more difficult for us?

Summer is W's extra stressful/busy period at her work. She often stays late and goes in on the weekend, so I'm thinking this would be a bad time to apply any pressure to her. Probably should wait at least until fall. Of course, W has more vacations planned without me for then, so maybe it is better to drop some kind of reality seeds now.

Last year at this time W said once her busy period was over, she planned to find a place of her own... she never did.

The new car issue may help me deliver a reality check.

oh I remember W's GF's MF. I mistook what you were calling him I sure hope MF did not take W up on her offer for a solo date, did he?

No. GF decided to join in after all. It sounds like he was willing to though. Neither seems to have any interest in the other, in that way. He's wanted GF for years, but she refuses to commit to him. Yet they continue to hang out and flirt.

I know you have a bunch of GAL activities. Do you have any that involve other women? The volleyball maybe? Remember how she got a bit withdrawn and sulky after she saw how well you and GF got along? Maybe if W saw that other women in addition to GF find you fun and attractive, maybe it would ping something in her brain and she would remember she finds you fun and attractive too?

TKD class should resume in a month or two, and it is mostly women. Maybe I could get a couple of them to come to my home studio for private training. Not sure if that would help W and I though, she might still like me to find someone else and move on. At least that's what she said way back at the beginning of all this... hasn't for a while now though.

By the way, did I miss it? Did she pick out red for your new car???

No, you missed nothing on the car. W is still taking her time deciding on this, and frankly now I'm not so sure I want us to buy an expensive new car if we're only going to split up soon.